We live in a world that teaches us that we should put others before ourselves. We have become experts on meeting other people's needs, but might struggle to meet our own. Linked to this is the most important need of all: setting clear boundaries. When we don't have clear boundaries, we allow others to demand our time and attention, when we'd rather be doing something else. The guilt of saying "no" takes us to a place of resentment and rocky relationships. We resent ourselves and our friend, family member, employer or colleague, for saying "yes" when we really wanted some time to do our own thing. We forget to find alternatives, an in-between: "no" right now doesn't mean you can't help later. In this book, I provide the practical tools you will need to develop a habit in the following areas setting boundaries and becoming more assertive honouring your feelings, listening to what you need and being able to ask for it balancing time on your own and with others lead by example when it comes to how you want to be treated your relationship with nature and solitude sleep hygiene, exercise, and more Implementing all of these in your life, through stories to ponder on, reflection points that will help you think, feel, act, and clear outcomes, will help you improve your life and relationships. Get good at self-care by setting clear boundaries and speaking up to meet your needs. Start today! The idea for this book came about from my own self-care journey over 20+ years. I took the time getting to know what works for me and makes me happy, as well as what doesn't work for me and contributed to making me unhappy. I hope this book will help you find the same within your life and relationships.