Transformation is not a masculine process. The 'Work' is not a masculine process. Practice, Sadhana, Surrender to the Will of God are not masculine processes. Many people assume they need to batter practice, to club it to death until finally they will dominate, win, end up victorious. But this approach does not work, plainly and simply. The process is feminine and the keys to the lock which imprisons Reality or Truth is in a feminine approach. We must go at this knot of confusion, called the mind or sleep or unconsciousness or illusion or maya, with very gentle, humorous, patient, accepting relationships to it. We can practice vigorously but with bright and flexible vigor, not rigid, righteous vigor. We must give ourselves time to relax into this Enlightenment, whatever it is, rather than trying to force it to take us over, permeate our fears and illusion (which of course it cannot do). If we approach the Work as Woman, we may just discover something quite unexpected and surprising, but no less delightful.