"A word is dead when it is said, some say. I say it just begins to live that day." These 19 simple words penned by Emily Dickinson expresses a mountain of truth. "I'll forgive you, but I'll never forget what you have said." These 11 accusatory and truly unforgiving words have been spoken countless times by countless people and have destroyed and continue to devastate countless people and their relationships. There is always a certain amount of right and a certain amount of wrong on both sides of every issue. Trying to determine who is most right and who is most wrong will never resolve the matter. Usually this approach to solving an issue will only drive the wedge of separation deeper. Thus the need for the book Problem Solved: Problems Are Solutions In Disguise There is no change if there is no change. If you want tomorrow to be different, from yesterday - different meaning better - you must do something different today. Repeating: There is no change if there is no change. Compromise is spelled k-i-l-l-e-r. When two or more people compromise it usually involves giving up something they value for the sake of the other person. Thus each party walks away feeling they have lost something not gained something. The hardest thing to give is IN. But giving in is not synonymous with giving up. This can be one of the first steps in renewing and strengthening a faltering relationship if handled in a responsible, productive manner. Attack the Problem Not the Person. This one Tool in New Hope's arsenal of problem solving tools is of the general belief by former counselees to be most effective in solving a breakdown in communication and/or relationships. The following 12 words, sincerely spoken, can restore a relationship: I am wrong. I am sorry. Please forgive me. I love you. Problem Solved: Problems Are Solutions In Disguise is easy to read, easy to follow and easy to apply. Remember: There is no change if there is no change. If you want tomorrow to be better than yesterday you must do something different today. Different meaning better.