Effective therapeutic self-help techniques for a straight mate's recoveryOne of the most traumatic events that can happen in a marriage is discovering your mate is gay. When Your Spouse Comes Out: A Straight Mate's Recovery Manualis a comprehensive exploration of the trauma that provides practical steps that successful individuals have taken to keep this event from ruining their future. This guide offers solid therapeutic techniques for self-help and presents poignant true stories that illustrate that the damage is not irreparable. The book examines the various reactions to the coming-out event, the personal challenges and obstacles often experienced, and shares lessons learned and some of the secrets of transformation. When this crisis hits home, isolation, depression, anger, grief, and self-recrimination take root. When Your Spouse Comes Out: A Straight Mate's Recovery Manualpresents role models, analysis, practices, and activities promoting long-term emotional recovery for heterosexual men and women whose intimate partners are gay. The text includes integrated exercises helpful for class work and student discussion and case studies of people who recount their stories and explain their recovery. Topics inWhen Your Spouse Comes Out: A Straight Mate's Recovery Manualinclude:different straight spouse responses to the coming out eventdiverse ways gay mates approach coming outtypical stages of coping by straight spouseshealth riskshow to tell the childrenhelping children with the resulting challengespaths toward healingrecreating familyand moreWhen Your Spouse Comes Out: A Straight Mate's Recovery Manualoffers a self-directed path to recovery which can be used individually or in the context of a support group. This guide is invaluable for straight spouses working alone or in groups, therapists, counselors, group facilitators, librarians, families of gays/lesbians, and their mates. | When Your Spouse Comes Out by Carol Grever, Paperback | Indigo Chapters